The sort of dating relationships that are seen today aren’t mentioned in the Bible. Marriage and betrothal are the only types of romantic relationships seen in Scripture.
What this means is that a girlfriend should be, first and foremost, a potential marriage partner. A man should be seeking a woman to spend his life with, not just someone to have fun with. If a man is not ready to get married, he should not be pursuing a girlfriend.
The First thing to know is that their is no perfect lady out there for you but their some characteristics that a good lady should have.
You are the leader and she, as your partner, has respect for you and the decisions you make. She doesn’t make you afraid of her and look like you cant take care of her. But of course, you have to respect her too by not humiliating and treating her like a slave.
She is a figure who always support you in your life as well as your career and always by your side when the whole world walks out. Thus, a good woman can be the best listener by providing support and comfort for you. She also gives you freedom to develop yourself as you want.
She Loves GOD
A Christian woman will exhibit a spirit of submission to the Lord. The apostle Paul tells wives they are to submit to their husbands as unto the Lord (Ephesians 5:22-24). If she is not able to submit to the Lord, she will likely not see the value of submitting to her husband when that time comes. It is important to remember that the character of submission is a spiritual quality, not a personality trait.
So the couple is in a fight and they’re arguing half an hour, an hour, two hours, sometimes even a day or two. And then it turns out at the end of the fight — Oh, it was just a misunderstanding. I thought you meant that. You didn’t mean that? Okay, we agree. — If that happens constantly, if the couple is constantly getting into misunderstandings which then lead to arguments, that’s not a good sign because that might not change.
The Lady needs to be a good communicator and also a good listener.
The person who you want to marry should be a person who is going to take care of you, who is going to treat you nicely. The lady should be able to respect you when you tell her to do something for you.
If the lady is one that when you send her to do something she says : ” Why not you do it” or ” Let the watchman do it” then theirs an issue there.
Ask on questions of chores of the house talk about them and if she can do them.
Simple and Down To Earth
The lady should be simple and down to earth. So What do i mean ? The lady should be one you can take to a cheap restaurant when you have or dont have money. That does not mean you should not take care of her. She shouldnt be a lady who loves luxurious things and hating simple things.
Why do i say this? because their comes a time when you wont have that money and the question is.. will she stay?
She should be A blessing in your life
A good lady should benefit and bless her guy. She is to be his helper, according to the earliest biblical precedent set for Adam and Eve. She should be a fit helper for his mission and call.
If he is called to be a pastor or a missionary, for example, he should look for a Christian girlfriend who feels the same call. If he feels a strong desire for a large family, he should find a woman who feels the same way. But most of all, according to the call put on all of us to be ambassadors for Christ (2 Corinthians 5:20), a man should choose a woman who will help, and not hinder him in this regard.
She should exhibit a commitment to prayer (1 Thessalonians 5:16), encouragement (1 Thessalonians 5:11), serving others (Hebrews 6:10) and the wisdom that comes from knowing God’s Word (Colossians 3:16). This is the kind of woman that will be truly helpful to a Christian man.