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What Does The Bible Have To Say About Dating? (Find Out)

Type the word “dating” into your bible search tool and what comes up? Nothing. When I was single, I remember wishing there was an entire book of the bible dedicated to the topic, or at least even a chapter. But though Scriptures are filled with foundational life-changing truths, there are still some topics that are left untouched when it comes to finding a biblical perspective.

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In fact, I have to chuckle to myself whenever someone asks me to give a “biblical” perspective on dating. Not only is there nothing said about the topic, but the concept of dating didn’t even exist in biblical times. Even today in the cultures of the Middle East, dating is a relatively new concept.

The modern-day concept of “dating” looked far different 2,000 years ago. The process of meeting a spouse had very little to do with compatibility and personality traits, and everything to do with family lineage and economic status. Finding a mate functioned a lot more like a bartering system than dinner and a movie. If we’re really serious about “biblical dating,” than our Friday night rendezvous at Starbucks would probably need to include our entire extended family, a dowry, and a couple hundred donkeys, goats, and sheep somewhere in the mix. I don’t know about you, but that sounds like a pretty awkward first date to me.


Though the bible doesn’t talk directly about dating, it does speak volumes about relationships, godly interactions, and principles that can be applied to how you date. In fact, a portion of my new book, True Love Dates (Zondervan, 2013), is dedicated to examining how to apply these principles to real-life situations. 1 Corinthians 10:31 reminds us that no matter what it is we’re doing; it can be used as a means to glorifying God. The bible makes it clear that life is less about the “do’s” and “don’ts” and so much more about doing what’s beneficial, healthy, and righteous (1 Corinthians 10:23). So what does that mean when it comes to dating? How can dating be done in a way that’s healthy and righteous?

1. Become a healthy person: The best way to have a healthy dating relationship is to become a healthy person. God’s word reminds us of the need for us to throw off the old baggage of sin, bad habits, and hang-ups – and to become new each and every single day (Ephesians 4:22-24). Becoming more like Christ sets us up for interactions with others that reflect love, healing, and wholeness. I don’t know about you, but I say that’s a step in the right direction when it comes to dating well.



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Make The Right Decision: 6 Christian Dating Do’s And Dont’s

There are a lot of Christian philosophies on dating and sometimes it’s difficult to know which one is best for you. A good place to begin before dating is on your knees and clearly communicating with God about His will for your life. Many people have suffered greatly in their relationships because they neglected to spend time with God before dating.

It’s important that believers conduct themselves in a gracious and honorable manner in their dating experiences. The world has lost the beauty of discovery in courtship as it pushes people towards sexual relationships. The following are 6 Christians dating do’s and don’ts for those who want God’s will more than their own way.


1. Do make it a habit to pray first before responding yes or no to a date.

“Then he prayed, ‘Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham’” (Genesis 24:12). Abraham sent his senior servant to seek out a wife for his son, Isaac. He was adamant that Isaac wouldn’t marry a woman in the country he was living. Abraham’s belief underscores the significance of dating and marrying someone within rather than outside of the faith. This servant took his job seriously enough to stop and pray for God’s guidance. It should be no less serious for a child of God to seek His wisdom and direction before the first date and on every date afterwards. This habit will pay off in huge dividends in spiritual growth and the ability to follow God’s directions.

2. Don’t disregard your own inner convictions or Christians standards to please your date.

“Dear friends, if our hearts do not condemn us, we have confidence before God” (1 John 3:21). Even if you date a believer—it’s a good chance you are both not at the the same level need to grow up spiritually. It’s necessary to have your convictions thought out and settled before your date. Will you be troubled if your date drinks or not? Will your conscious be convicted if the movie is rated R? Your convictions shouldn’t be buried under the stronger desire of having a date. Be gentle and courageous to speak up if you are uncomfortable and need to feel secure on your date.

3. Do seek out the advice of wise people about your date.

“The way of fools seems right to them, but the wise listen to advice” (Proverbs 12:15). It’s not that you need permission as an adult to date; however, it’s most helpful to communicate with a wise believer about your intentions. Keeping secrets about your dating desires or experiences can complicate your situation as sin loves to hover in the darkness. Be open and honest about your expectations in dating situations. Allow a third person of accountability to be a part of your decisions so that you keep yourself from the appearance of evil.

4. Don’t be afraid to be yourself in Christ.

“But by the grace of God I am what I am, and his grace to me was not without effect (1 Corinthians 15:10). Some Christians make the grave mistake of not really being who they are in Christ when they are dating. There are times when people play down their faith when they really feel convicted or they play up their faith to give a faulty impression of spirituality. God knows your heart and motives—stay in tune with God even during the date. You don’t have to be on a soap box preaching about your Christian experience, just be yourself in the Lord trusting that God will give you wisdom on what to share and what to keep to yourself.

4. Do respond to your date as your brother and sister in Christ.

“Treat younger men as brothers, older women as mothers, and Treating your date as your brother or sister in Christ will take the edge off of worrying about “is he/she the one?” Take your time to get to know them as how they are and not how they could fit into your life as a future spouse. As a believer in Jesus Christ, you don’t want to pollute your relationship by being overly engaged and inappropriately affectionate. Always seek the presence of Jesus in your dating time— His presence keeps the focus on the brotherly/sisterly aspect of your date.

5. Don’t allow yourself to get so caught up in the romance and emotion that you lose objectivity.

“Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour” (1 Peter 5:8). Romance, infatuation, and emotions are always readily available in the beginning of a relationship. However if you allow yourself to be immersed in any of them, you will lose your focus and direction in the relationship. You also run the risk of not seeing your date as they are, but rather how you imagine them to be. Recognize your weaknesses and desires with a willingness for the Holy Spirit to gently prod you towards a realistic view of your date.

6. “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Proverbs 4:23).

Dating can be a wonderful and fulfilling experience if you are willing to trust in the Lord and take the steps to guard your heart.When the time is right, God has the best interest for you and your date. Begin your relationship with a God focus so that you can look back in honor with no regrets.

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Is He Good To Date Me ? 20 Qualities Of A Guy Worth Dating

Searching for “the one” can be a daunting task. And while there may be hundreds of qualities to look for in a man, I’ve come up with 23 that I believe every woman should seek after. Don’t tread lightly when it comes to the idea of a relationship. You can be as picky as you want, and I discourage you from ever just settling. I hope these 23 qualities will help you on your journey, keep you from dating the wrong people, and encourage you to not ever sell yourself short. God didn’t create you to settle.

  1. He loves God.
  2. He is driven.
  3. He is goal oriented.
  4. He is chivalrous.
  5. He is supportive.
  6. He is honest.
  7. He respects his parents.
  8. He respects your/his purity.
  9. He shows patience.
  10. He puts God first.
  11. He is reliable.
  12. He is trustworthy.
  13. He is someone you are attracted to.
  14. He is always willing to help those in need.
  15. He will pray for you/with you.
  16. He manages his finances well.
  17. He has a good reputation.
  18. He is willing to work hard to provide.
  19. He doesn’t make hasty decisions.
  20. He doesn’t have a foul mouth.
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  21. He has good manners.
  22. He is willing to protect you.
  23. He is always thinking on the bright side.

What do you think ?

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6 Things Women Are Insecure About

When it comes to dating, most women have a few insecurities and they tend to worry about very different things than men. Your actions can make a big difference on how secure she’ll feel when she’s with you.

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Here are 5 things women worry about when it comes to dating or being in a relationship

1. She thinks you might not call her after a date

The first step to building a woman’s trust is to following through with what you promise her. So if you say you are going to call her on Thursday, call her Thursday. If you say Friday, do it. If that’s not your style, though, or you’d like to keep a little mystery, don’t be definite about when you’ll be calling. It’s better than breaking a promise and at least she won’t be waiting by the phone on a certain day.

2. He’s  dating other women

A woman is constantly suspicious that her man is cheating on her – because despite the fact that her man has constantly reassured her about the quality of her personality and her muffins, she is still unsure of herself.

3. She thinks you’re not that interested

At times, even the most confident woman sometimes needs a little reassurance that you’re interested in her and that she still has it. You could let her know how special she is to you by complimenting her or sending her flowers.

4. Career

A few women are also apparently concerned about their jobs; either that they simply don’t have a job, that they would like to have a better or more commonly respected job; or, they already have a good career but are insecure about their status in the company, their ability to climb the ladder, their male competition

5. Age

Women also are insecure about their age. They want to look young, are jealous of other women, and are constantly trying to find the right foods and products which will fight the aging process.

6.  He just want to sleep with me 

A woman in a new relationship is also constantly worrying that the man is only interested in her for sex – because she is also insecure about whether or not there is anything interesting or desirable about her besides her body- and must once again be reassured by the man that he likes her personality and ambitions.



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Pros And Cons Of Dating A Gospel Artiste

Dating is not just a walk in the park I would say as it involves understanding the other person and also SACRIFICE.


I don’t mean sacrifice of father Abraham I mean you have to leave things that you mostly like at times for the sake of your partner. What about dating a gospel artiste ?

A gospel artiste/minister is not easy either as many people think as it involves a lot than what one would have anticipated.

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Advantages/Pros Of Dating A Gospel Artiste

Word Of GOD

The word of GOD guides the gospel singer and looking at that it would be quite easier to have guidance in the relationship. With GOD as the center of the relationship it would be easier to overcome the temptations in life.

You will also have a strong background in the word of GOD as it will be your daily food.

Celebrity Status

One thing that you can not avoid is that the artiste/minister is a popular member in the society. Whether he/she is a pastor/singer most people will want to associate with him/her and hence you will also gain the celebrity status.


If the artiste is deep in the word of GOD you will without a doubt find love in him/her as Love is one of the fruits of the Holy Spirits which comes from GOD.

Prayer and Fasting

You will be praying and fasting most of the time as everything he/she does needs prayer be it music/mission.


A gospel singer in the word will be caring, as that’s what ministry is all about.

Being Called To Minister With Them

One of the greatest parts is that at times you will be following/accompanying them as he/she goes for ministry or goes to receive their awards.

Overcoming Temptations

It will be easier to overcome temptations as always you will be checking what the people will say on how to react.



The biggest shadow you will ever have in your life is the media. You can never escape the media as they will  be following every move you make looking at the fact that you are close to the artiste.

If you are planning to date one/are dating one you need to plan for the backlash of media.


You Are celebrity already once you start attending church service with them or walking in public with them. How will you respond to this ? Can you handle the questions being asked by people every time you meet in the streets ?

Left Alone Walking

This always happens when you are walking in public and people stop the artiste/minister on the road to say hi to him/her. After that you are always left alone as you wait for her/him to finish signing the autographs. Look into that as you will be left waiting in most of the times.

Home Alone And Less Social

Most probably you will be left home alone most of the times if you are married together as most of the time he/she will be travelling for missions or performances.

You might at times also stop being social with most friends as you don’t want your “private life” go public

High Cost Of Living

Cost of living will high on your side as you will always be trying to dress to please or eat at a place that will not tarnish your name.


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6 Dating Rules You Should Follow

Dating is that part in life when a person decides that He/She would like to be in a relationship. So what tips should guide a christian in dating.

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1. Do You Believe In Jesus

A very basic principle to keep your future marriage and your relationship with God out of spiritual danger: date a believer.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” (NIV)

2. Wait For GOD To Send You The Right Person

Although finding a wife or receiving a husband can sometimes take a long time, God says in Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you…” So wait for God’s perfect timing.

3. Don’t Be Desperate

God has prepared everything for you, including a person for you to marry. Therefore, you don’t need to be desperate and pull your hair out looking for someone to date.

4. Don’t Touch Me

In 1 Corinthians 7:1 Paul exhorted “It is good for a man not to touch a woman” but rather urged Christain singles to pursue sex within marriage in order to remain holy. So save sex for marriage.

5. Talk To Your Pastor For Help

Have questions about dating? Find someone such a pastor or other spiritual leader to guide you and establish boundaries during or before dating.

6. Look At The Heart

Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” When dating a prospective husband/ wife, look beyond the physical appearances and focus on whether or not he or she has a heart for God.


Will He Propose? 8 Things Ladies Need To Know Before They Get Married?

Are you in a relationship  that you  hope or plan to get married? well  here are 8 things simple steps that you should know before you get married.

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1. That You Love Him Just As He Is (Because He’s Not Going to Change)

What irritates you about your guy now will really grate on you after you’re married. He’s a total slob? A night owl when you’re an early bird? Don’t kid yourself into thinking he’ll change once you’re hitched — that’s a blueprint for disappointment, says. Assume that any negative qualities you’re seeing will remain negative, and be realistic about what you’re willing to live with. So decide what’s a dealbreaker and what’s not before your boyfriend becomes your husband.

2. Whether You Really Love Him — Or the Idea of Getting Married
You don’t want to marry Mr. I-Suppose-He’s-Right just because you’re caught up in bridal excitement, or because it seems like the logical next step or because everyone you know is tying the knot. To be sure it’s the guy you want, and not just the Mrs. title,  ask  yourself these questions: Can you imagine any other man in your wedding/honeymoon/married life plans? Would you still want to marry your guy if it was just the two of you at the courthouse? Think carefully about your answers before taking the next step.

3. Whether You Both Want Children

Some couples want six kids — others can’t even imagine having one. What ultimately matters though, is that you both know in your gut how you feel about the “having kids” question. Sit down with your fiancé and have a true heart-to-heart: Discuss where you see yourself in 5 or 10 years and if kids are part of that vision. If you’re not on the same page, one of you will have to compromise in a big way, which may be very stressful (or even a dealbreaker).

4.How to Do Home Improvements

No, you don’t need to know how to install your own solar water heater, but you should own a toolbox stocked with the basics (hammer, screwdriver, wrench, pliers, power drill, assorted screws and nails) and know how to hang a picture, change out a door knob and assemble your own Ikea desk. “Fixing things around the house yourself can be incredibly empowering, especially if your husband isn’t handy or never seems to get around to doing it himself. Even if you marry Mr. Fix It, knowing your own way around a tool box means you won’t need to keep nagging him when you just want it done.

5. How to Cook Something From Scratch

Being able to feed yourself (or someone else) is an important life skill, so it is good to learn how to do more than dump Ragu over spaghetti. Home-cooked meals will give you a sense of accomplishment, save you money — and probably keep you healthier, too.

6. Whether You Want To Keep Or Change Your Name

Not every woman is keen on giving up a name that reflects her personal and professional identity, heritage and family history. And these days, there are lots of ways to play the name game: Keep the one you’ve got. Take a hyphenated name. Combine your names into one new one. There’s no “right” answer, you just need to know what feels right to you — and talk to your guy about what’s important to him.

7.Where You Want To Be in 5, 10, 15 Years

While you don’t need to have your whole life planned out, it’s important to know what matters most to you — whether it’s wanting to make partner at your law firm, running a marathon or hoping to have two kids, two years apart. Having a roadmap can help ensure that you don’t get so wrapped up in your husband’s goals and dreams that you forget your own. “When we don’t focus on ourselves, we become unhappy and then the marriage becomes unhappy.

8. Why His Previous Relationships Didn’t Work Out

How does your guy talk about his exes? Pay attention (as much as you’d rather not!) because it can offer insight into your own relationship. Was he overly possessive? Consumed by work? Unfaithful? These may not be dealbreakers if he’s learned and grown from his experiences. If he takes responsibility for something he did — even if it’s just for making a bad choice.



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