“May you Live happily ever after” Those are the words of the priest told to a couple that had just got married. The good thing is that their is love between them and they may live happily ever after but not all live happily for more than year.
Some couples get married with no good reason because they just want to get married. Remember is a life commitment is not like going to a restaurant and leaving when you finish your meal. Its something ordained by GOD and is for better for worse.
I feel a couple should not get married if :
You’re tired of being single
It is certainly better to be single than settling for a woman you don’t truly love and being miserable. Being the only unwed guy/lady in the group may feel a bit awkward, but it’s nothing compared to the agony you’ll feel by getting hitched just to ensure that you’re not the odd man/lady out.
Its better to wait for the right time after seeking the Lord in prayer.
A marriage built solely on money and materialism is like building a house on sand. When the wind blows, your marriage will crumble. If money is the motivating force in a marriage it is certain to be an empty, cold relationship without affection.
When family gets involved, whether it is pushing you to marry a certain girl/guy or you are expected to marry a girl/guy within a certain race or social status, there is a problem.
Pressure from your family to finally tie the knot, provide grandchildren or someone to carry on the family name are never good reasons to get hitched. Determining if awoman is “wife material” should not be a group decision.
You Love His/Her Looks
A beautiful woman or a handsome guy may look pleasing to the eye and may have a body that is desirable, but at the same time might have a terrible personality that will make him/her very difficult to live with once the honeymoon is over.
Deciding to marry a man/woman solely on the basis of his/her physical appearance could lead to a disastrous relationship. What a man/woman is like on the inside is always going to be more important than her outer beauty.
We Are Both Christians
Marriage is a union under GOD and is not something to be joked with. I have heard people getting married because they are both Christians. Being a Christian doesnot determine that that person is the right person to marry. You need to have a greater commitment in faith and also have related tastes and preferences while complementing each other.
If she is in the choir then you want to marry her? No know her first and understand her then think of something else.
It seems like the next logical step
Although the logical sequence of a man’s life usually includes starting a great career, buying a nice car and having a nice house, marriage doesn’t have to be one of the steps. Everyone takes different paths in life, and it’s possible that yours doesn’t necessarily include a walk down the aisle.
In conclusion take it slow and have GOD as the centre of your relationship and he will guide you. Dont be anxious :
“Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air: they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them.
Are you not of more value than they? And which of you by being anxious can add a single hour to his span of life? And why are you anxious about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin, yet I tell you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. …